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Sunday, October 5, 2008

"Super Women" vs. "Wonder Women"

As I enter mid-terms this week, I must admit that I am exhausted and overwhelmed. This whole college thing while being a mom, wife, and employee is highly overrated. I have a bad habit of being overly optimistic without being realistic about my abilities. I usually think that I am "Super Woman" as I begin new things. Saying yes right and left with the false belief that I have super human abilities and that I can handle anything. Of course I can clean my house, make dinner, write a term paper while working 20 hours a week, doing the grocery shopping, while playing the perfect mom, and being smoking hot for my husband while getting straight A's as the top student in every single class. I can even do it all without breaking a sweat, breaking a nail or breaking out into complete and total madness.

Sadly this only lasts momentarily and then I dissolve from being"Super Woman" into "Wonder Woman"
meaning I wonder how and if I can accomplish what I committed myself to. I wonder how I am going to take 24 hours and miraculously split it into 48 hours. I wonder when I will get sleep, studying time in, breathing time in. I wonder when I will actually get to sit down and rest, I wonder when I will have the opportunity to have a real conversation with my husband and to spend quality time with Liam. I am filled with wondering and introspection as this semester has been a huge reality check for me. I have learned that in fact I have no super human powers and that this is no "Super Woman" cape that I am wearing rather it is a badly stained table cloth in desperate need of laundering. I sigh to myself and wonder when I will have time for that as well. I can't help but wonder how I am going to make it to the end of the semester! 

10 comments:

Jana Perkins said...

With God All Things Are Possible! Keep up the great work you are doing. You'll make it, I know you will.

Courtney said...

You really are a very talented writer.

Multitasking student/mom/wife was always rough. There are bad days and good days. It feels like it will never end. But it does. I must admit I never through in the employee card. Well not while going to school at the same time. When I first read that you got a part time job I thought you were nuts. Then I realized that you are super woman. You accomplish everything you put your mind to and you will accomplish this too. You are amazing. You are going to do amazing this semester and you are one of the best mothers I have ever met. Get through and decide how much you can handle next semester. Always remember to get sleep and eat well. You need it in these stressful times.

Good luck!

Debz said...

You can do it babe...many times in life we have to make hard sacrifices but they always pay off..my fav quote is: The best way to determine your future is to create...you are doing that....and I am really proud of you....love ya lots ...debz

Debz said...

The best way to determine your future is to create it.....

Murdoch Clan said...

Kia kaha sissy! Hang in there, you're 1/2 way through. You've pushed yourself way past your limits, and I know how you feel. I just told Patrick last night "sometimes I think I'm super woman, or mom or whatever, and then I realize I've bitten off more than I can chew." BUT you can do it Sis, obviously not ALL of those things, but you're going to need to prioritize, and sacrifice some of those things to feel better about the MOST important. Love you Sissy, I'll be praying for you, we need ALL the help we can get! Arohanui, Laura Eb

Ana Maraea Ngawiki Torgesen said...

Hey Sister SUE, Just think you have made it half way through... so what the heck is another half, right. just think here soon you will be able to enjoy Thanksgiving break!!! yay. I think it is so awesome how you were brave enough to even set foot in that direction, you can do it sis, you really can, remember YOU CAN DO HARD THINGS!
i LOVE you sister
your awesome
ani

Michelle said...

Hey Moana...just wanted to say that I am way proud of what you are doing, I have always thought you were and awesome and outstanding person...always will...love ya, take care Michelle

Ana Maraea Ngawiki Torgesen said...

Hey Sissy, yeah i ordered her one a week ago and she has it now and she is doing very good. I found out a little while she was teething and so yeah that makes sense. it said some of the symptoms are chin rash which she had, drooling, she had a lot of it, mild fever, she didn't at the time, and then this one really confused me, Pulling at the EARS!!! which she did a lot. I took her to the doctor twice to see if she had an ear infection both times they said no so now it makes sense, she is teething. My poor baby but now that i know i feel much better and she has her necklace too thank you sis. Love you my sister and by the way i will be picking liam up on wednesday morning at like 7:30 or 7:45 am whenever you need me to. Love you
awnie

Alexa said...

Maybe you should put the Super Woman suit on under your clothes to remind you all day what a Super Woman you are, and that you are more than capable of doing all the things you need to! I wonder if those things ride up in the back... that would be annoying! I hope you have a good week and just do the best you can! We love you!
Alexa

ajhcreative said...

You know it is never easy when we take on too much. But where there is a will there is a way! I have learned that from experience. Sure you will be EXHAUSTEd and not feeling like yourself, but in the end it is worth it. Count your blessing every day and somehow you will get through it. Just think the semester is half way done. You can do it!!! Love ya M